Working with Gemstones and Crystals to manifest love.

Love is the creative force of the Universe:  it's all around us, even if we lose sight of it sometimes.

We all have an infinite capacity to give and receive love, and sharing unconditional love with another person is one of the most emotionally satisfying and spiritually uplifting things we can experience.  Finding that special someone can be challenging, but luckily for us Mother Earth has her own precious treasures - her crystals and gemstones - to help us on our quest.

Everything in the Universe, including crystals and gemstones, has its own vibration and is in a constant state of movement.  The energy vibrations in our personal energy fields, especially our chakras, are being constantly effected by our thoughts, emotions and experiences.  What we think, feel and believe, we become.

Crystals have the ability to hold, amplify and transmit energy, helping to heal and balance our energies, focus our intention and manifest our needs and desires.  The energy vibrations from crystals can help fine-tune our chakras, strengthening and balancing them as needed, enabling them to attract positive energies - including love.

Opening your Heart to Love

Unhappy or painful experiences in previous relationships can leave us with a whole range of negative emotions.  These can include mistrust or a feeling that we are not worthy of love.  The pain of loss and heartbreak can be too much to bear, and without even realising it, our heart chakra contracts as it tries to stop us re-experiencing the pain.  There are many crystals and gemstones which can assist with affairs of the heart, and I've listed a few of them at the bottom of this page.  If in doubt, try Rose Quartz - its gentle, nurturing vibrations help to open the heart chakra, healing painful emotions and releasing any fears about love.  It teaches acceptance and compassion, not just for others, but starting with the self, restoring feelings of self-worth and self-esteem.  A healthy, balanced heart centre attracts love, and enables us to give and receive love unconditionally.

If you already have a Rose Quartz, you can use it for manifesting love, or you may like to buy a selection of different sized gemstones, perhaps one or two large stones to place in your room, a few tumbled stones and a crystal to wear.

Before working with your crystals, you need to cleanse them of any negative energies they may have picked up.  Rose Quartz can be soaked in a solution of sea salt and water for a few hours, smudged with sage or placed on an Amethyst druze overnight.

Once cleansed, you can programme (or dedicate) your crystal to help you manifest love.  First, sit quietly and hold it in your hand.  You may like to visualise a pure, white light surrounding you and shining into your crystal as you tune in to its energy.  Then, concentrate on pure, unconditional love, and focus on the energy.  Ask your crystal to help you bring love into you life, and to open and heal your heart to help you experience it.  When you've finished, thank your crystal.  You can then work with this crystal, or a selection if you have them, in the following ways:

Keep it with you

If your crystal is small enough, you can carry it with you in your pocket as a comforter or worry stone.  Hold it regularly to absorb its energies.

Wear it on your body

Wearing Rose Quartz close to your body is a good way to receive a constant flow of energy from your chosen crystal.  This can be as jewellery, or a simple stone on a thong or chain around your neck.

Energise the vibrations in your home

Use Rose Quartz to attract love into your home.  You can place it in any room, but especially in your bedroom, where you will absorb its vibrations while you sleep.  If you have two crystals of the same size by your bed, this will attract a loving, equal partnership.  Putting a Rose Quartz in the relationship corner of your home (the south-west or far right) lends positive energy to all relationships.

Make crystal essence

Half-fill a clear glass bowl with spring water, add your gemstones and leave to infuse for 8-12 hours.  Add this essence to your bath or apply to your pulse points.  You can also put your crystal water into a spray bottle and mist it into your aura.


Meditating with Rose Quartz can accelerate the process of manifesting love.  When you hold your crystal it absorbs your own thoughts and emotions and reflects them back to you, which can give you a deeper understanding of what your heart and soul truly need.  You may like to spend some time simply sitting quietly and connection with your crystal, or try the following meditation:

Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed.  Sit down, make yourself comfortable, close your eyes and take a few slow, deep breaths.  Feel your mind becoming still and your body relaxing deeper with each breath.  Hold your crystal and become aware of any sensations or emotions which may come to light.  You may notice a feeling of warmth, a sense of peace and acceptance, or be aware of a comforting energy surrounding you.  Focus on your heart chakra in the centre of your chest, and experience the feeling of receiving love and giving love.  You are surrounded by love.  You are love.  Sit with this feeling for a while and listen to what your heart is telling you.  When you feel ready, thank your crystal for its help and open your eyes.

Connecting with gemstones and crystals will harmonise your subtle energies and strengthen your intuitive abilities.  It isn't beyond the realms of possibility that the love of your life will turn up on your doorstep, but you'll improve your chance of success by listening to your intuition and taking action.  Follow your heart, be true to yourself, and welcome the magic of love into your life!

Crystals and Gemstones to attract positive, loving relationships into your life:


Amazonite enhances loving communication by enabling you to see both sides of a situation, calms and balances your emotions and attracts love into your life.



This highly spiritual crystal helps you to manifest the situations and relationships needed for spiritual growth.  It creates inner peace and wisdom by helping to heal past heartbreaks.



By inspiring tolerance and understanding, Aquamarine helps to re-establish loving communication between couples who have grown apart.


Blue Aventurine

The comforting energy of Blue Aventurine has a balancing effect on the heart chakra.  It aids in the recovery from emotional pain, calms anger and fosters love and compassion.



This gemstone inspires love, passion, devotion and commitment and helps you to let go of habits or ideas that prevent you from allowing love into your life.  It increases self-confidence and inspires stability and loyalty within relationships.


Green Aventurine

Green Aventurine protects, heals and balances the heart chakra, and by removing blocks in this chakra, helps to heal negative emotions such as anger, fear and heartbreak.  It also encourages patience, tolerance, empathy and compassion.



Jade opens the heart chakra to love, encouraging self-love, strengthening self-esteem and attracting love and friendship.  Often known as the stone of fidelity, it can restore harmony to difficult relationships.


Lapis Lazuli

In relationships, Lapis Lazuli strengthens the bonds of love and loyalty and helps you to communicate your feelings and emotions calmly and honestly.



Larimar helps to heal unresolved issues or fears regarding love and relationships.  If heartbreak and traumatic experiences from past relationships have created a defensive barrier around the heart, this gemstone helps to bring about emotional release, opening the heart once again to give and receive love.



Rhodochrosite brings to light painful emotions caused by past hurts, such as loneliness, loss, heartache, fear and insecurity, helps to heal and release them, and replaces them with a new, enthusiastic, positive attitude to life.  It strengthens self-esteem and self-worth.  Given as a token of love, it's believed to strengthen the bonds between you and your partner while spending time apart.



Rhodonite heals negative emotions created by past experiences.  Dealing with these painful feelings helps you to love yourself and provides a secure emotional foundation to enable you to give and receive love unconditionally.  In relationships, it helps you to see both sides of a situation, leading to mutual understanding and a strengthening of friendships.  In inspires tolerance, patience and compassion towards others, helping you to solve conflicts in a constructive way.  The heart-healing energy of Rhodonite encourages forgiveness which can help to resolve tensions within relationships.


Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz heals and balances the heart chakra which opens the heart to Universal and unconditional love encourages you to love yourself.  It helps you to forgive yourself and others for past mistakes, by teaching compassion, kindness and tolerance.  It also raises self-esteem and self-worth.  It attracts love into your life and restores harmony and trust in existing relationships, leading to deeper commitment.



Turquoise inspires romantic love.  Its calming energy helps you to express yourself clearly when speaking helping you to communicate from the heart.  It is also a symbol of friendship, and it is believed that if you're given this gemstone by a loving friend, it will protect you from negative energy and bring good fortune.